Love

Read these beautiful lines today…

The night has a thousand eyes, the day but one;

Yet the light of the bright world dies, with the dying sun.

The mind has a thousand eyes, the heart but one’

Yet the light of the whole life dies, when love is done.

- Francis W. Bourdillon

Knowing Myself Better….

Amrit tagged me to do this so here I go…

1. Were you named after anyone?

Nope…And that’s good only…I don’t like anything associated with me to be ‘after someone’

2. When was the last time you cried?

Apparently last evening only Its strange… till some years back, I rarely used to cry…not that my life has become miserable now..its probably better than those yesteryears, but still…guess I’ve become much more emotional now…or rather have started showing my emotions a lot more now…donno whether its good or bad!

3.  Do you like your handwriting?

Mmmm… yes…pretty much!

4. What is your favorite lunch meat?

Well…I am not really a foodie… so anything will do

5. Do you have kids?

Nope..

6. If you were another person, would you be friends with you?

Now that’s a stupid question! How can I say that…unless I know who/what that ‘other’ me is… it really depends!

7. Do you use sarcasm?

Yes I do. Sometimes just for fun and sometimes to vent out my frustration! I think I’m pretty good at it

8. Do you still have your tonsils?

Yes!

9. Would you bungee jump?

Oh yes, anytime! I did it once and it was simply amazing!!!

10. What is your favorite cereal?

Rice…I guess… again I’m not a foodie at all..so…

11. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?

Not always If I can take them off comfortably without untying..then I don’t bother to!

12. If you were to pick your own first name, what would it be?

Well…I quite like my name..so I don’t think I would want to change it!

13. What is your favorite ice-cream?

Butterscotch

14. What is the first thing you notice about people?

How good can they speak… I hate people with incorrect grammar!!!

15. Red or Pink?

RED

16. Whom do you miss the most?

See this!

17. Do you want everyone to complete the list?

Well…good if I see it completed by more people I know…will help me in knowing them better…but its okay even if they don’t

18. What color clothes are you wearing?

White and pink

19. What are you listening to right now?

Some of my thoughts

20. If you were a crayon what color would you be?

Black…

21. Favorite smells?

Mmmm…nothing very specific…

22. Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?

Sam

23. How do you know the person who sent this to you?

A very sweet guy who commented on my blog for the first time today…He says my blog inspired him to start a blog…wow! (blink blink)

24. Favorite sports to watch?

Lawn Tennis and Cricket

25. Hair Color?

Black

26. Eye Color?

Brownish-Black or Blackish-Brown…call it whatever!

27. Do you wear contacts?

No…neither glasses

28. Favorite Foods?

Pav Bhaji…. anytime, any place

29. Scary movies or happy endings?

Depends on the mood!

30. Last movie you watched?

Chowrasta – The crossroads of love

31. What book are you reading right now?

The 7 Best Things Happy Couple Do – Pretty interesting book…almost through it now…

32. Summer or Winter?

WINTER

33. Hugs or Kisses?

Both are needed but if I have to chose one, I would prefer hugs over kisses

35. Describe your pencil cup?

The one here in office is cylindrical in shape, black in color…with a criss-cross design

36. Favorite Artist?

Bryan Adams, K.K., Jagjit Singh

37. What kind of music are you into?

Anything that is soft and has good lyrics.

38. What is on your mouse pad?

It says Dell

39. What did you watch on TV last night?

IPL match – Mumbai vs Kolkata

40. Favorite Sound(s)?

Water dripping, sound of leaves when its windy, guitar, piano…basically anything that’s pleasant to ears

41. Do you sing or play an instrument?

Yes I sing all the time (whether people around me like it or not!) and instrument…i can play a Casio

42. What is the farthest you’ve been from home?

I’m bad at geography… I really don’t know!

43. Do you have a special talent?

Don’t know… people say that I have the capability to give them a perspective and make them feel better when they’re down… and that’s precisely why I started with the Relationship Counseling thing!

44. Where were you born?

In Delhi

45. Favorite piece of jewelery?

Ring…in fact, that’s all I ‘like’ in jewelery!

46. How did you meet your spouse/significant other?

Through my family/friend – long story!

47. Favorite Song?

Ahh… So many…

48. Favorite Musical?

None!

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Gosh…that was long…it seems so short when you’re reading others’ lists….!!!

Well… I am not tagging anyone…whoever feels like answering can do that

All Smiles Today :)

It feels nice to get recognition for something you’ve put your heart in! Today is one of those nice days for me… If you remember, I told you sometime back that I am obsessed with the stats of my blog. In those stats, there is a section that tells you what search keys directed people to your blog. One of those search keys today was “Sakshi Gupta relationship counseling”… it might sound like a small thing…but somehow it gave me a lot pf pleasure So just wanted to note it down here…

3 years of absolute bliss!!!

I know this is the most cliche sentence I can say but still I’ll say it…. It seems like yesterday that we got married… doesn’t feel like three years by any stretch of imagination!!! And its so overwhelming to remember each of those special moments that we witnessed in this period… The SMS you sent to me just before reaching the wedding venue, the first night, the first drive to our Gurgaon home, the honeymoon and so many other trips, the fights, the disagreemnets and the warmth on solving those disagreements, the dilemma on jobs, moving to bangalore, dilemma on house, learning, unlearning, understanding and knowing each other more and more everyday, the good, bad and ugly times…oh man..i can go on and on and on….

Its unbelievable for me and for others who know me…to see that someone has tolerated me for so long… and that without many grins I know how impossible I get at times… but to be honest..I like doing that I also know how nasty I get at times butthen again, I ove doing that also

On a more serious note, I still believe that I couldn’t have been luckier…. coz you are still ‘Better than the best’… I love you…more than you will ever know…more than I can ever say… and though it seems like yesterday when we got married…I can’t imagine my life without you! You’re a sweetheart!

Aghast!

Sometimes you come across situations/stories in life to which you don’t know how to react. I came across one today. Someone who has recently become close to me shared a piece of her life…probably the worst one… and i was completely shocked… didn’t know what to tell her… but she is someone who is mature enough to get comforted by silence also!

All I can say is we, humans, can be so so wrong in judging people…God, this is so disturbing… I hope she finds peace… soon!

From hedge funds to pizzas!!!

Just read another of this recession stories…. it shocked the hell outta me…

The only good part of this phase is that people are learning a lot and realizing the importance of savings… but do we really implement it till such time that we really face it?! I guess most of us don’t. And me…writing this here… have I really done something yet? No. In fact I just did some crazy shopping this weekend. And I am feeling stupid now. And so I hope I continue feeling this stupid and do something about it soon!!!

Succisive Moments

Yes…I have lots of them… ‘SUCCISIVE’ moments… and in my view anyone can… you just have to make that effort… be determined to have your own ’succisive’ time…to be yourself…to be with yourself… to realize yourself… to know yourself…and to do some other random stuff!!!

Well… a proof of the statement that I have a lot of ’succisive’ time is that I keep stumbling on new and interesting things every single day (apart from being myself).. but I’m not ranting… I love it! This time, thanks to Shivanand, I came across this website called “Save The Words” I think it’s an amazing concept. Herein, you can adopt any word from their huge list of words which are more or less no longer in use… you adopt a word and vow to spread it by using it in your conversations as much as possible…

And now I am a proud parent of the word ‘SUCCISIVE’
SUCCISIVE –> of spare or extra time.

So all of you out there… don’t waste your succisive moments… there’s so much to do.. go get one for yourself! And trust me, it’s a nice feeling

Think before you ‘Publish’

Yes, you read it right…’publish’ and not ’speak’ or ‘write’… both of the latter are oh-so-retarded now!

Recently I wrote an article for a magazine saying how social media is becoming more and more powerful. And oh boy…it indeed has become very powerful. Just today I came across a story which is funny, sad and thought-provoking at the same time. There is this person who got a job with Cisco and posted his apprehensions on twitter. The employer somehow read it and the poor thing most likely would have lost the offer, though he tried everything like removing the post and making it private, but it was too late by then. This is how the conversation on twitter went –

“The guy – Cisco just offered me a job. I have to weigh the utility of a fatty paycheck against the daily commute to San Jose and hating the work.
Cisco’s Reply – Who is the hiring manager? I’m sure they would love to know that you will hate the work. We her at Cisco are versed in the web.”

So guys… with the ever-rising power and presence of social media… one must be increasingly cautious of what is typed before he/she hits the ‘Publish’ button!

This too shall pass!

One amazing article a friend emailed me today –

My Friends,

Money has no memory. Experience has. You will never know what the total cost of your education was, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalisation bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother’s life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won’t remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness. Money has no memory. Experience has.

Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn’t know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn’t enough and you still had reasons to smile. Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.

The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…

The first time she said ‘yes’ and it was two years since you proposed…

The first cry… the first steps… the first word… the first kiss… all of your child…

The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your daughter gave you…

The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage performance…

And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…

No denying that anything that’s material cost money, but the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience never.

So, what if it’s economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn’t cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap. Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.

Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don’t want you to look back and realise you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.

Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have.

Please spend a minute on my survey

I have started working on a business plan. The whole idea is about making special events even more special for people! Something like helping people celebrate love!

Need a small favor from all of you there. I’ve created a survey to do some private research (link below). Please fill it in. It’s very important for me.

http://www.eSurveysPro.com/Survey.aspx?id=c598b928-0735-471a-9eee-0f897fd25808

P.S. Will tell you more about it once I take it forward (trade secrets you know )