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Do you hate someone?!

January 9, 2009 by thoughtcourt

“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.”

-Hermann Hesse

Posted in Food for thought, Gyaan, JLT, People, Quotes | 15 Comments

15 Responses

on January 10, 2009 at 10:47 am | Reply Masy

That is just the greatest quote I have ever come across. It’s very true in itself and it is even surprising that it is.
on January 10, 2009 at 1:57 pm | Reply thoughtcourt

Absolutely Masy!
on January 11, 2009 at 2:40 pm | Reply Anonymous

Sakshi, I do not agree to this. I hate so many things in so many people and none of them relates to me. Its not always something which is a part of you….though it might be a part of what you think is the ‘ideal’ thing. Just to give you an example, I hate people who get up late in the morning, I somehow cannot relate to the fact that you can sleep till 9, 10 or 11 am in the morning. It has nothing got to do with me. I am early riser. Yet, I hate it.
on January 12, 2009 at 11:04 am | Reply thoughtcourt

Anonymous… even in the example you quoted…I think it has something to do with you… you hate ppl who get up late…either because you envy them or because you just can’t relate to them because you yourself never get up late….

Its something in you doesn’t mean that you have to have the same trait in yourself but that something in your own self akes you hate that trait in someone else!
on January 13, 2009 at 7:58 pm | Reply ME

“something in him that is part of yourself”

after reading all the comments here, i feel like ticking “none of the above”. i guess this part of the quote has not been comprehended by us here. am still trying to decipher it. is anyone else having same gut abt it?
on January 13, 2009 at 8:01 pm | Reply ME

correction:
same gut abt it = same gut “reaction” abt it
on January 15, 2009 at 10:24 am | Reply thoughtcourt

Well…. maybe you’re right….maybe we haven’t got it right… waiting for your version of it!
on January 16, 2009 at 2:30 am | Reply me

okay, i worked on it. it appeared to me initially, that what the poet means by “something in him that is part of yourself” is something that YOU gave to that person. i mean something that you share with that person. but no, what fits better is something “you can relate to…” i ended up with same snippet as sakshi. so i guess i endorse her on this at the end!

btw, i heard this song from b-barber movie, “she got me rock and reeling…” and now i cannt get it out of both my ipod and my head!!! man, its like flu

if i had my blog, i would have uploaded it to share with you guys!
on January 16, 2009 at 12:00 pm | Reply thoughtcourt

I heard the song…quite peppy!
on January 24, 2009 at 3:47 pm | Reply english pro :P

i think humans go through a lot of emotions in their lives. to dislike something in someone else is natural. its not because we’re relating it to ourselves because if that were true in any example of dislike or even like for that matter, we can associate our qualities. the quote just sounds cool. it makes no sense. obviously we can relate it to ourselves unless we’ve been bought up on islands. using the same example above, the guy doesnt like people who get up late because he gets up early. everyone either gets up late or early or does both. everyone either likes people who get up early or dislikes them. how does it matter if they do it themselves or dont?! :S
on February 3, 2009 at 9:32 pm | Reply the duck

so if someone kills a loved one of mine, and i hate him for it, i actually hate myself for sharing his desire to kill?

hum.. no.
on February 3, 2009 at 11:22 pm | Reply thoughtcourt

the duck…no… it didn’t mean that you have to share the same feeling…. it can be anything inside you…
on April 17, 2009 at 12:23 pm | Reply Ashish Gourav

I partly disagree but I don’t have strong points to support my opinion so lets believe and give you the favour of the doubt
on April 20, 2009 at 9:43 am | Reply thoughtcourt

hehe…thanks
on November 8, 2009 at 11:11 am | Reply Anon.

So.. If my Best friend got with my ex knowing full well I was strung up on her, how does this reflect self-hate?

I’m not trolling, I just want to understand.

More so that I can let go of this pain, rather than bathe in it.