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Free Relationship Counseling

All of us have our share of tough times in relationships, be it with your spouse, parents, siblings or friends. Recently I successfully helped someone in sorting out a big issue in his life and he said why don’t you start providing relationship counseling. I thought he was kidding, but he wasn’t. And after sometime, I thought why not? I shall consider myself lucky if I can make a difference to even a single person’s life! So, here I am… If you wish to discuss or seek resolution for any problem in your life, drop in a line. I shall try my best to help you!

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on November 20, 2008 at 9:08 pm | Reply Relationship Counseling anyone? | Sameer Agarwal

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on December 10, 2008 at 10:46 am | Reply Shimmer

Well…must admit! The counseling is also totally worth it She is not only a wonderful blogger with a lot of interesting posts but will be or probably already is a quite impressive relationship counselor I must say
Your posts are in itself a great mood booster, and bravo on the idea to offering counseling You have a great gift and it’s wonderful that you are sharing it with everyone.
Good luck dear
on January 8, 2009 at 11:59 am | Reply paresh tanwani

I am a happy bud from pune……happy beacuse a very serious problem in my 6yr old relationship has been solved by Mrs. Sakshi successfully.

a couple of weeks back after being fed up with my problems i searched on net for a voluntary relationship counsellor, with a feeling that there wont be any in India atleast. But still i gave it a try by restricting my search to only India. Coz only an Proud Indian can understand an Indian and help. And i found Mrs. Sakshi from her Husband’s blog. And trust me she is the only Voluntary counseller, who cares for the relation and does it for her satisfaction.

She has a very great understanding sense and perfect command on legal matters too. Because relationship is not just emotional if it is true it always has some legal problems.

Moreover with a unique relation like this first i felt it was possible for even a counseller to solve it.

But She used to understand my problem even before i express. Coz words cant express the problems a person’s intution makes them feel others emotions. This what exactly sakshi has an intution to feel.

Even the most proffessional counsellers dont give solutions online. You need to visit them. They are taught to read a person. Nut sakshi could read my mind even without knowing everything about me.

And the most positive thing for this is she did everything volunteerilly. She can easily print money if she starts it professionally.

She’s not ordinary. Coz ordinary people like us are never bothered for others problems. Most of the time we are confused in our own problems. And i feel that almost every serious relation needs a help like this.

She treated my problem personally and not professionally, this is what makes the difference. She successfully solved it. She is here for a good cause and i will be ever thankful too her.
on April 27, 2009 at 11:18 am | Reply Cat

Thanks a lot for your great help, Sakshi!

I think I do see things regarding my relationship much clearer now…

Best wishes and keep up the great work!
Cat
on April 28, 2009 at 3:56 pm | Reply Knowing Myself Better…. « Whims and Realities…

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on June 27, 2009 at 9:08 pm | Reply Amanda

Hi,
I would be grateful if you can help me with this situation as I am unable to talk to someone else.

I met this guy whose was in his early thirties; during I the time worked for a company. He liked me both as a person as well as a good worker. At the beginning I did not care much to look at him, but he did. Eventually I too looked at him, and this looking went for a few months.

He admired my work and also wanted me start working in his office, but it did not work out as my own boss did not like the idea. He did not talk much to me, but always went shy and red. Sometimes he will frown and stare hard. He is very busy and I have no doubt he had many things going in his life and also at work. He once tried to talk to me but only mentioned some silly stuff and went away.

Eventually he talked to me about my personal life. But he always made sure not to talk about his personal life or feelings, except in very rare situations. Also he was kind of scared of people gossiping so he tired to be discreet. He did not have a problem like this with other girls at work, though. He talked with them for hours, freely smiling, in front of others.
I sent him emails, sometimes these were emotional. Although he knew I liked him, he did not tell me what to do about my feelings or what he thinks about that.
Because of this emails and talking I kind of got attached to him. Once he told that he does not mind my emails and then after a month told me not to send so many emails as he might not have time to read them. Then I told him that I won’t email him again. He told me that sorry for not answering my emails and also that I am not disturbing him.

So the main thing is, when ever I tried to get closer to him, he strongly pulled away. Then after a few weeks he came back and smiled or talked. Also every time I tried to get away, he told me sorry for being rude and all that. Also he would sometimes follow me from behind, or suddenly come after or look at me, etc.I don’t know he was sending me mixed signals or just trying to be nice. But I have a feeling that he liked me and was kind of attracted to me.

Anyway after I left the company, he is not keeping in touch with me. I did not get a chance to talk to him personally before I leave but I kept emailing him.

The thing is all I wanted to know is that whether I imaged that he liked me? Why did he act that way, sending me mixed signals? Was he just being nice to me and also just liked me?
I feel very confused.
on October 11, 2009 at 6:31 am | Reply Mae

My guy and I have been together for 3 years. He is divorced. They were in several business ventures together prior to divorce. Yes, they are still business partners. She knows about me and we are cordial with each other. They have a 10 year old daughter and the daughter adores me as I her. When it’s my guys turn to have his daughter, he picks her up and the first thing she wants to do is to come to my house and stay over so they do. My guy and I do not sleep together when his daughter is around. Business started getting bad and my guy started getting into real financial binds. I don’t have money, but I helped him out best I could (cooking for him to make sure he ate and occasionally giving him household stuff. I must say, he has never asked me for anything. I even offered that he could give up his apartment and move in with me if he wanted to. He said no because he did not want to jeopardize our relationship and he had to maintain his independence.
Well, it started getting so bad for him….all the way around that his financials got worse (business and personal)…his ex-wife approached him and said that her mom (his ex-mom in-law) was more than willing to help him out – a loan….she’s loaded! First couple of times he said no and scraped it up elsewhere. Then he finally had to “borrow” from her. The ex mom-in-law is also responsible for her deceased daughter’s 2 kids – girl 12, boy 14. The boy is very rebellious and gets into trouble a lot. He has run away a couple of times. Well then the ex-wife and the ex-mom in law started calling my guy, all stressed out…they can’t do anything with the boy. In the mean time my guy’s daughter starts having trouble in school….academic not behavioral. Now my guy is being pulled back into that situation in order to help out with the nephew and with his own daughter.
They were going to send the boy to live with another grandfather in another city so the ex mom-in law says to my guy, “if you go with me to take him, you wont have to pay back the money that you owe me”. Now get this, my guy is considering it. Here is another one, his daughter is off –track so she is out of school for a month. The ex wife tells him that they (the 2 of them) need to spend more time with the daughter as a family before she goes back to school. She has some business deals in the works so if they go through she will have the money.
She has talked him into taking the daughter on a mini vacation…out of town; He does not see anything wrong with it. I told him that divorced people do not take vacations together when one of them is in another committed relationship. He said yes they do when there are no feelings there for the other person. I could not believe what I was hearing. He did not understand and said that I was being emotional when I said to him, “how do you think that makes me feel?’ “not to mention the mixed message and false hope that you are sending to your daughter that her parents are still together or are getting back together”. He says to me that he loves me, that he and his ex are not getting back together and that his daughter knows that it won’t happen.
About a week later, the ex called him and said that her electricity got shut off in her place and that she and the daughter were in the dark and cold and could she come stay with him. He asked why she couldn’t just bring the daughter to him and that she should go to her mom. She said that she and her mom were not on good terms at the moment. So he said ok….When he called to tell me about it, I went off and told him that she knows his daughter is his world and she used the daughter to get to him. We bantered back and forth until he finally told her that she could stay one night and that he was leaving to come to my house for the night and that’s what he did. The next day morning she was still there and stayed most of the afternoon….sleeping….not feeling well. He was not there. I told him that she has an agenda to get him back, he says no

What should I do? I know he loves me and I love him. My concern is, is this the start of an agenda that the ex and her mom are putting together? What comes after this? What’s next?
Should I let it ride or should I just walk away now?
Am I being unreasonable?
Desperately seeking advice!