All Smiles Today :)

It feels nice to get recognition for something you’ve put your heart in! Today is one of those nice days for me… If you remember, I told you sometime back that I am obsessed with the stats of my blog. In those stats, there is a section that tells you what search keys directed people to your blog. One of those search keys today was “Sakshi Gupta relationship counseling”… it might sound like a small thing…but somehow it gave me a lot pf pleasure 🙂 So just wanted to note it down here…

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3 years of absolute bliss!!!

I know this is the most cliche sentence I can say but still I’ll say it…. It seems like yesterday that we got married… doesn’t feel like three years by any stretch of imagination!!! And its so overwhelming to remember each of those special moments that we witnessed in this period… The SMS you sent to me just before reaching the wedding venue, the first night, the first drive to our Gurgaon home, the honeymoon and so many other trips, the fights, the disagreemnets and the warmth on solving those disagreements, the dilemma on jobs, moving to bangalore, dilemma on house, learning, unlearning, understanding and knowing each other more and more everyday, the good, bad and ugly times…oh man..i can go on and on and on….

Its unbelievable for me and for others who know me…to see that someone has tolerated me for so long… and that without many grins 🙂 I know how impossible I get at times… but to be honest..I like doing that 😉 I also know how nasty I get at times butthen again, I ove doing that also 😀

On a more serious note, I still believe that I couldn’t have been luckier…. coz you are still ‘Better than the best’… I love you…more than you will ever know…more than I can ever say… and though it seems like yesterday when we got married…I can’t imagine my life without you! You’re a sweetheart!

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This too shall pass!

One amazing article a friend emailed me today –

My Friends,

Money has no memory. Experience has. You will never know what the total cost of your education was, but for a lifetime you will recall and relive the memories of schools and colleges. Few years from now, you will forget the amount you paid to settle the hospitalisation bill, but will ever cherish having saved your mother’s life or the life you get to live with the just born. You won’t remember the cost of your honeymoon, but to the last breath remember the experiences of the bliss of togetherness. Money has no memory. Experience has.

Good times and bad times, times of prosperity and times of poverty, times when the future looked so secure and times when you didn’t know from where the tomorrow will come… life has been in one way or the other a roller-coaster ride for everyone. Beyond all that abundance and beyond all that deprivation, what remains is the memory of experiences. Sometimes the wallet was full… sometimes even the pocket was empty. There was enough and you still had reasons to frown. There wasn’t enough and you still had reasons to smile. Today, you can look back with tears of gratitude for all the times you had laughed together, and also look back with a smile at all the times you cried alone. All in all, life filled you with experiences to create a history of your own self, and you alone can remember them all.

The first time you balanced yourself on your cycle without support…

The first time she said ‘yes’ and it was two years since you proposed…

The first cry… the first steps… the first word… the first kiss… all of your child…

The first gift you bought for your parents and the first gift your daughter gave you…

The first award… the first public appreciation… the first stage performance…

And the list is endless… Experiences, with timeless memory…

No denying that anything that’s material cost money, but the fact remains the cost of the experience will be forgotten, but the experience never.

So, what if it’s economic recession? Let it be, but let there not be a recession to the quality of your life. You can still take your parents, if not on a pilgrimage, at least to the local temple. You can still play with your children, if not on an international holiday, at least in the local park. It doesn’t cost money to lie down or to take a loved one onto your lap. Nice time to train the employees, create leadership availability and be ready for the wonderful times when they arrive. Hey! Aspects like your health, knowledge development and spiritual growth are not economy dependent.

Time will pass… economy will revive… currency will soon be in current… and in all this, I don’t want you to look back and realise you did nothing but stayed in gloom. Recession can make you lose out on money. Let it not make you lose out on experiences… If you are not happy with what you have, no matter how much more you have, you will still not be happy.

Make a statement with the way you live your life: How I feel has nothing to do with how much I have.

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Phew!

Keeping crazily busy for sometime now… A friend just reminded me that I’ve been off the blog for sometime… and I liked the way he said it – “Oh btw…if you get sometime do update your blog…you write well.” And this was just 5 mins ago..I thought I should definitely write something right away 🙂

On being busy – I’m enjoying it…haven’t  I always preferred being busy than being idle? People who really know me know the answer! And for those who don’t – Yes, I sure have! And that’s so because this way I don’t get much time to dwell my mind into stupid unecessary stuff that might upset me… you won’t believe but these days even if I feel bad over something, I generally forget it in very li’l time. This has never happened to me before. And I’m happy to be like this… I’ve always wanted to be like this – To get affected by nothing but myself  🙂

I still remember what I heard Diana Hayden saying once –  this

So I’ll leave you here with this… gotta get back to work 🙂

Oh and btw..did I tell you that I got a hard copy of the magazine I wrote for (with my article in it)? I guess I didn’t! Yes I did..and it was such a wonderful feeling…inexplicable! Here’s the link to my article – See page 41 of 83 in this…

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Make it special?!

Just a simple question to all of you out there – has it ever happened to you that you wanted to do something very special for someone very special in your life but didn’t know what to do…. or even worse…you knew what to do but didn’t know how to do it?

Please answer…it’s important for me to know!

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Sleepless…yet again!!!

Hmm… one more of those days when sleep refuses to honour me! And so, I thought I might as well utilize the time writing something…rather than just tossing on the bed… but no thought coming to my mind right now… guess the mind is just too relaxed to think 🙂

But wait, if that’s the case…then why can’t I sleep… I though one sleeps better when the mind is relaxed….chuck it man…who cares!!!

Btw…now that I’ve been doing relationship counselng for sometime, I must say that this has been the most satisfying exerience of my life…. and I’m so thankful to people who encouraged me to start with this… Today I was doing some couseling for my bhabhi (my bro’s wife) and at the end of it I asked her.. “Are you convinced with what I said?”… She said I guess so… but the thing is that whenever I talk to you, I feel fine and I can think rationally and see my own faults as well… but whenever a similar thing happens again, I forget everything and there starts the whole cycle again…why is that so? And to be honest that confused me as well… for sometime, it made me think that when I counsel someone, do I just make them feel better for then or do I try to solve that problem forever by givin them a perspective from the other side of the table? Well… to my mind, I try and do the latter and also, I try to give proper reasoning behind whatever I suggest…otherwise why would they ever listen to me? But then, the question remains… why do we forget those things the very next time? And when I really thought about it, I figured that it happens with all of us… anger/frustration/disappointment makes us forget how we solved the same situation the last time… and we then need someone to remind us of all those ways yet again…but then, that’s what relationship counselors are here for 🙂

With each problem that I get from people, I feel more and more lucky. With each passing day I’m evoloving more as a human being, as a wif, as a partner, as a friend…I thank my stars that I’m not facing any of those problems in my life…All the stupid things that we call problems seem so tiny and meaningless.. I’ve started valuing rlationships so much more…. I think there’s nothing better than this to really learn about life….

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Happy New Year – 2009!!!

A very Happy New Year to all those who are reading this – and even those who are not! My wish for the year – I hope we can spend more time and energy on our own selves and on those who love us… rather than on whom/what we love… I think its important to concentrate more on people who love us… probably the first thought for this year!

2008 has been a year of mixed emotions. Saw many ups and downs, which I think are extremely important to evolve!  Well, leaving all the good and the not-so-good of 2008 behind, I am starting this year all afresh…and I feel great about it!

2009 started on a good note, surrounded by all those who hold importance in my life… and continues to be good. For starters, I joined a gym near my place. I always thought that gym is not the place for me. But with all the weight that I gained last year, I thought its a good idea to give it a try. Yesterday was the first day and I had fun. I hope I keep the rigor on! Amen! Looks like I’m gonna dedicate this year to my body…Its been just 6 days and I got a new haircut, went for a nice body massage and body scrub and joined the gym! Not bad! Will try and click some nice pics and will post them then…

Got another good news today – my first article for a magazine got published yesterday… I am so excited to get the magazine in hand 🙂 Should be getting it in next 7-10 days! It will soon be published online as well…will post the link then!

Lets see what else this year has in hold for me… but whatever it is…I am game!!! Just shoot!!!

As they say…Well begun is half done…so I’m half done already 🙂

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The first tang of success!

I am elated right now. I successfully solved the first case in my ‘relationship counseling‘ effort…it was an amazing feeling to read that mail…sent by the lady who sent her problem to me last week saying that all’s well now… I am so happy for her and myself… Not that I’ve never solved any problems ever before this, but this one was a more formal and organized (or whatever) approach…so the feeling is slightly different…or maybe because its the first success for something I started on my own…my own li’l effort to make a difference…to my life and to some other lives as well!

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Relationship Counseling – first day experience

If I have to sum it up in one word I will say ‘Gratification’!!!!

I was surprised to see queries from six people on the very first day 🙂 And I managed to reply to all of them yesterday itself! I really can’t express what an amazing feeling it is… incredible sense of accomplishment! So much so that even if I die today, I can say I did something inlife. I hope I can keep the rigor on…forever!

Still thinking about what should be the next step to spread my wings in this field… or should I give it sometime? Am I being over-enthusiastic?

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The first step!

Yiippee….i took the first step at least…I have created a community on orkut named “Relationship Counseling”… thanks to Hardik’s idea 🙂 At first, I thought that community won’t help because some people might not want to make their issues public but then in the description I wrote that in case anyone doesn’t want to make their problem public they can write an email to me! You can visit and join the community here

Guys, thanks for all the encouragement and ideas…keep throwing in suggestions…I really need them!

By the way, for your informations…the second step should either be an added column on this blog itself or a new website…lets see how it goes! Shall keep you updated!

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