All Smiles Today :)

It feels nice to get recognition for something you’ve put your heart in! Today is one of those nice days for me… If you remember, I told you sometime back that I am obsessed with the stats of my blog. In those stats, there is a section that tells you what search keys directed people to your blog. One of those search keys today was “Sakshi Gupta relationship counseling”… it might sound like a small thing…but somehow it gave me a lot pf pleasure 🙂 So just wanted to note it down here…

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Sleepless…yet again!!!

Hmm… one more of those days when sleep refuses to honour me! And so, I thought I might as well utilize the time writing something…rather than just tossing on the bed… but no thought coming to my mind right now… guess the mind is just too relaxed to think 🙂

But wait, if that’s the case…then why can’t I sleep… I though one sleeps better when the mind is relaxed….chuck it man…who cares!!!

Btw…now that I’ve been doing relationship counselng for sometime, I must say that this has been the most satisfying exerience of my life…. and I’m so thankful to people who encouraged me to start with this… Today I was doing some couseling for my bhabhi (my bro’s wife) and at the end of it I asked her.. “Are you convinced with what I said?”… She said I guess so… but the thing is that whenever I talk to you, I feel fine and I can think rationally and see my own faults as well… but whenever a similar thing happens again, I forget everything and there starts the whole cycle again…why is that so? And to be honest that confused me as well… for sometime, it made me think that when I counsel someone, do I just make them feel better for then or do I try to solve that problem forever by givin them a perspective from the other side of the table? Well… to my mind, I try and do the latter and also, I try to give proper reasoning behind whatever I suggest…otherwise why would they ever listen to me? But then, the question remains… why do we forget those things the very next time? And when I really thought about it, I figured that it happens with all of us… anger/frustration/disappointment makes us forget how we solved the same situation the last time… and we then need someone to remind us of all those ways yet again…but then, that’s what relationship counselors are here for 🙂

With each problem that I get from people, I feel more and more lucky. With each passing day I’m evoloving more as a human being, as a wif, as a partner, as a friend…I thank my stars that I’m not facing any of those problems in my life…All the stupid things that we call problems seem so tiny and meaningless.. I’ve started valuing rlationships so much more…. I think there’s nothing better than this to really learn about life….

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Trust and Love

Well, all of us say and have heard that trust is the soul of a relationship. And I am not arguing over that, I completely agree… but then I guess not many of us really know what do we mean by ‘trust’ here!

Here’s the background for the thought – Yesterday I got a question from a man who said that he feels guilty because he can’t feel much for his wife. He says that he knows that trust is very important in the relationship and he trusts his wife completely and he knows that she will never cheat on him but still…

So, here I think that first of all just the trust that your spouse will not cheat is not a reason enough to love someone. And secondly trust here doesn’t mean only the feeling that the other person will not cheat, it also means being 100% sure that your partner will be there to hold you whenever you fall, the trust that the person loves you as much as you do, the trust that he/she will stand by you in all your adversities, the trust that he/she will understand without your saying it sometimes, the trust that he/she will see without you showing it at times…. its not just about fidelity!

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The first tang of success!

I am elated right now. I successfully solved the first case in my ‘relationship counseling‘ effort…it was an amazing feeling to read that mail…sent by the lady who sent her problem to me last week saying that all’s well now… I am so happy for her and myself… Not that I’ve never solved any problems ever before this, but this one was a more formal and organized (or whatever) approach…so the feeling is slightly different…or maybe because its the first success for something I started on my own…my own li’l effort to make a difference…to my life and to some other lives as well!

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Relationship Counseling – first day experience

If I have to sum it up in one word I will say ‘Gratification’!!!!

I was surprised to see queries from six people on the very first day 🙂 And I managed to reply to all of them yesterday itself! I really can’t express what an amazing feeling it is… incredible sense of accomplishment! So much so that even if I die today, I can say I did something inlife. I hope I can keep the rigor on…forever!

Still thinking about what should be the next step to spread my wings in this field… or should I give it sometime? Am I being over-enthusiastic?

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