Please spend a minute on my survey

I have started working on a business plan. The whole idea is about making special events even more special for people! Something like helping people celebrate love!

Need a small favor from all of you there. I’ve created a survey to do some private research (link below). Please fill it in. It’s very important for me.

http://www.eSurveysPro.com/Survey.aspx?id=c598b928-0735-471a-9eee-0f897fd25808

P.S. Will tell you more about it once I take it forward (trade secrets you know 😉 )

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Phew!

Keeping crazily busy for sometime now… A friend just reminded me that I’ve been off the blog for sometime… and I liked the way he said it – “Oh btw…if you get sometime do update your blog…you write well.” And this was just 5 mins ago..I thought I should definitely write something right away 🙂

On being busy – I’m enjoying it…haven’t  I always preferred being busy than being idle? People who really know me know the answer! And for those who don’t – Yes, I sure have! And that’s so because this way I don’t get much time to dwell my mind into stupid unecessary stuff that might upset me… you won’t believe but these days even if I feel bad over something, I generally forget it in very li’l time. This has never happened to me before. And I’m happy to be like this… I’ve always wanted to be like this – To get affected by nothing but myself  🙂

I still remember what I heard Diana Hayden saying once –  this

So I’ll leave you here with this… gotta get back to work 🙂

Oh and btw..did I tell you that I got a hard copy of the magazine I wrote for (with my article in it)? I guess I didn’t! Yes I did..and it was such a wonderful feeling…inexplicable! Here’s the link to my article – See page 41 of 83 in this…

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Falling in love!

Read this in one of Mr. Sanjeev Bikhchandani’s articles and simply loved it!

“Becoming an entrepreneur is an irrational choice…. it’s like falling in love.”

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Rain Rain…Come Again!

It has been so many days that it rained here in Bangalore…. so many that I’ve started missing it now!

Ever since I remember, I’ve loved rains…the lighter the better for me! The love story started when someone in my childhood told me that when people in the sky are happy, they cry…and its there tears of happiness that bring rains 🙂 And yes, I choose to believe it… not that I don’t know of the scientific reason… but I choose to give it a damn and believe in this theory 🙂

Looks like there’s recession ‘up above the world so high’ as well…and so people are not very happy there also… huh!!!

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Sleepless…yet again!!!

Hmm… one more of those days when sleep refuses to honour me! And so, I thought I might as well utilize the time writing something…rather than just tossing on the bed… but no thought coming to my mind right now… guess the mind is just too relaxed to think 🙂

But wait, if that’s the case…then why can’t I sleep… I though one sleeps better when the mind is relaxed….chuck it man…who cares!!!

Btw…now that I’ve been doing relationship counselng for sometime, I must say that this has been the most satisfying exerience of my life…. and I’m so thankful to people who encouraged me to start with this… Today I was doing some couseling for my bhabhi (my bro’s wife) and at the end of it I asked her.. “Are you convinced with what I said?”… She said I guess so… but the thing is that whenever I talk to you, I feel fine and I can think rationally and see my own faults as well… but whenever a similar thing happens again, I forget everything and there starts the whole cycle again…why is that so? And to be honest that confused me as well… for sometime, it made me think that when I counsel someone, do I just make them feel better for then or do I try to solve that problem forever by givin them a perspective from the other side of the table? Well… to my mind, I try and do the latter and also, I try to give proper reasoning behind whatever I suggest…otherwise why would they ever listen to me? But then, the question remains… why do we forget those things the very next time? And when I really thought about it, I figured that it happens with all of us… anger/frustration/disappointment makes us forget how we solved the same situation the last time… and we then need someone to remind us of all those ways yet again…but then, that’s what relationship counselors are here for 🙂

With each problem that I get from people, I feel more and more lucky. With each passing day I’m evoloving more as a human being, as a wif, as a partner, as a friend…I thank my stars that I’m not facing any of those problems in my life…All the stupid things that we call problems seem so tiny and meaningless.. I’ve started valuing rlationships so much more…. I think there’s nothing better than this to really learn about life….

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Learning “The Life”!

Though I’m drowned in work right now, didn’t want to miss this thought…

Sameer and me were talking about this yesterday… that how we can learn even from the smallest things in life.. we went to “The Scary House” in a mall here.. it had some skeletons, scary noises, no light, and some other scary stuff.. and honestly speaking they had done a good job.. but not good enough to scare us 🙂 We were talking to the skeletons all through 😀 OK..so what was the learning? It was that it’s all in the mind… its how you manage your thought…. so instead of thinking and getting scared about what’s gonna come next in the scary house, all through we kept guessing that now this skeleton should fall or now some hand should clutch…or something and so nothing could really surprise/shock us! And so, the bottom line is that nothing can scare you unless you want to get scared!

Another example for learning from things that might otherwise go unnoticed – In Hindu marriages, there is a custom wherein both the bride and the groom have a thick thread tied on their wrists and that has seven knots in it…and tight ones! Now, both of them have to open all those knots on each other’s wrist (which is a tough job)… many, actually most, people just do it… without even thinking about it.  And most of them obviously find it really tough. But both of us were probably li’l different, we were helping each other in doing that… despite of all the opposition from everyone. And believe me…it was almost a cakewalk for us!  Now when we thought about it, we could relate it to the difficulties a couple might face in life…with each other or with someone else. So there’ll always be many problems in life, but if a couple can stick by each other in the time of adversity, it can sail through anything and everything!

These are 2 of the thousands examples I can quote here… in fact that’s a good idea, I’ll try and write whatever and however I learn anything in life… might be of help to someone else as well!

By the way, just now I gave the link to my poems on this blog to my sister-in-law and that made me realize that its been quite sometime that I got creative with my pen… and it was not a good feeling… msut write one soon..

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What is love?

This is a question everyone would have asked and answered a zillion times till date…. but still…does anyone really know? I don’t… not completely at least!

If you do…then answe this for me please…

One falls in one with someone… and after sometime the same person claims to be off that relationship and says I don’t love that person anymore… In such cases, what really changes? Is it that other person who changes? Is it the definition of love that changes? Or is it you who changes?

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Detached with Detachment!

I don’t know if the title made sense or not…but anyways! What invoked this post? Two things – My irritated state of mind (yet again for no reason) and Sameer’s last post!

Detachment… I’m sure all of us have heard this word a zillion times… more so now a days as the ‘Art of Living’ is the in-thing these days… but then… what is detachment and how easy or tough is it?

To be honest…for me… its quite tough… maybe because I don’t truly believe in this word… maybe because I have some wrong perceptions of this word…maybe I’m too strong-headed… maybe I’m just immature… maybe I’ll learn it with time and the harder way… like all other things in life! But you know what… I like to learn things the hard way now… because that ways you never forget them!

Coming back to ‘detachment’… so what does it mean? Does it mean becoming emotionally numb? Does it mean remaining unaffected by whatever anyone is doing around? Does it mean acting fully rationally, without any emotions ALWAYS? Does it mean not feeling anything for anyone? Does it mean not being hurt ever? Does it mean to stop loving and living?! Do all problems end for people who think they’re detached from everything and everyone?

I know all this is probably negative detachment…if there’s something like that at all! But then where do you draw the line? How do you know when to stop? And even if you do know, is it really in your hands to stop whenever?!

There has been a phase in my life when I felt detached from just about everything and everyone on this planet! When I came out of it, I thought that was the worst time of my life. But  as time passed and I experienced more and got hurt more, obviously due to things/people I was attached to, I thought maybe it was not all that bad.

So here, today, I’ve decided to at least try and master the art of ‘positive detachment’… anybody who has any knowledge on the subject..please enlighten me!

But then… the problem with me is that the moment I want to feel detached, I just go in complete oblivion… And at those times I just can’t stand people around me…I just want to be alone… but maybe I’ll learn to get over with it with time…lets see…maybe I learn to draw the line!

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Happy New Year – 2009!!!

A very Happy New Year to all those who are reading this – and even those who are not! My wish for the year – I hope we can spend more time and energy on our own selves and on those who love us… rather than on whom/what we love… I think its important to concentrate more on people who love us… probably the first thought for this year!

2008 has been a year of mixed emotions. Saw many ups and downs, which I think are extremely important to evolve!  Well, leaving all the good and the not-so-good of 2008 behind, I am starting this year all afresh…and I feel great about it!

2009 started on a good note, surrounded by all those who hold importance in my life… and continues to be good. For starters, I joined a gym near my place. I always thought that gym is not the place for me. But with all the weight that I gained last year, I thought its a good idea to give it a try. Yesterday was the first day and I had fun. I hope I keep the rigor on! Amen! Looks like I’m gonna dedicate this year to my body…Its been just 6 days and I got a new haircut, went for a nice body massage and body scrub and joined the gym! Not bad! Will try and click some nice pics and will post them then…

Got another good news today – my first article for a magazine got published yesterday… I am so excited to get the magazine in hand 🙂 Should be getting it in next 7-10 days! It will soon be published online as well…will post the link then!

Lets see what else this year has in hold for me… but whatever it is…I am game!!! Just shoot!!!

As they say…Well begun is half done…so I’m half done already 🙂

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I am also human!

Why do people sometimes fail to recognize that the person they are talking to is also a human?!

I wish I had some ON/OFF switch in my head so that I didn’t get worried for everything…at least not in front of others!

Life has always tested my strength… both mentally and physically…but I’ll not give up..I’ll remain strong…and all by myself…like always!

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